ABOUT
PRINCIPLE #1
We weren't given the tools and skills we need to build the relationships we want and deserve.
PRINCIPLE #2
Even if you're monogamous, learning about open relating will benefit your relationship.
PRINCIPLE #3
You're not non-monogamous or in an open relationship just because you want to learn more about it.
Hi there!
I'M ALLY ISEMAN.
→Hear from some of my brave clients.
I'm a writer, relationship coach, and the Founder of the educational platform Passport 2 Pleasure. I've been a speaker, community organizer, event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. I regularly share my knowledge and insights on podcasts, at live events, through my written and video content, as a featured subject matter expert for The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, Yahoo! and others, and as a contributing writer for the leading industry publication Sexual Health Magazine as well as brands like Arya and Afterglow. As a certified consent and communication specialist, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and an International Coaching Federation CRC-candidate (Certified Relationship Coach), I use inclusive relationship design to teach couples the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve. Whether you want to open up your relationship to include other people, or you just want to open up more authentically to each other, I can help you open up without blowing up!
PRINCIPLE #4
If we have better relationships that last longer, we'll have a better world that lasts longer.
PRINCIPLE #5
Boundaries give us freedom and a relationship without freedom isn't partnership, it's ownership.
PRINCIPLE #6
Consensual non-monogamy can't save your marriage, but it could prevent your divorce.
MY STORY
After far too long a tenure as a serial monogamist, dating only men for around 2 years at a time, I started to realize there might be something different about me, but I didn’t know the first thing about consensual non-monogamy or that there were even other relationship styles outside of the ones I'd had.
In 2016, after yet another messy breakup, I decided this was something I needed to explore about myself, by myself. I didn’t want any more emotional casualties on my conscience. Shortly thereafter, through a delightful one afternoon stand, I was unexpectedly invited to a private, sensually-curated event.
My first party within this community was deeply confirming and fulfilling. I attended solo and had an incredible time. I knew I had found my home. I’ve been in this sex-positive, consciously kinky space ever since, immersing myself in every way I can from attending workshops to hosting events and large parties to consuming books and classes galore. I’m nerding out and it’s hot AF.
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"Ally just gets it. Her containers are safe and empathetic at their core. She is a wealth of knowledge, but more than that, she pours her heart into what she does."
J.C., monogamish
"When I am in need of insight into a conflict regarding my partnerships, Ally leans in and really listens. Her responses are thoughtful and she takes my personality traits into account, which is a rare find in this space where boilerplate answers tend to be the norm."
Jessica, poly
