OPEN UP
WITHOUT BLOWING UP
Hi! I'm Ally Iseman.
and I've been helping couples open up without blowing up since 2016.
Does this sound like you?
- "We opened up and I am so unbelievably jealous about the fun my husband is having with his new girlfriend!"
- "She says it's just sex, but I'm afraid she's going to catch feelings for someone else. I'll die if she leaves me!"
- "I don't like my husband's girlfriend, now what?"
- "We had a whole schedule and it blew up immediately. Is there some simple way to do this that I don't know about?"
- "I only have to look at or say hello to someone of the opposite sex and I am accused of cheating!"
Or what about this?
- "Is there something wrong with me? I love when my husband dates other women!"
- "My wife is having all her fun with her new boyfriend and I just get the leftovers."
- "We don't have sex any more. The intimacy is gone!"
- "My best friend said we're fighting more because my wife has a boyfriend now, but I love her being with other men."
- "We had rules, then she broke one, now what do we do?"
- "I've stayed faithful in my relationship, but my wife hasn't!"
Open Up Without Blowing Up
Do you want to open up your relationship? Do you want to get out of the pain you're in now? Let me show you how...
The butterflies have turned into knives.
Hot, searing knives.
'Monogamy or bust' is what we're taught, but it's not the reality.
We're taught that we're all unique but that relationships are a one-size-fits all game, and that's simply not the case. With divorce rates skyrocketing and research showing 43% reported infidelity, including 20% of married men and 13% of married women, it's no wonder you're curious to see if there's another way.
Exploring consensual non-monogamy requires thoughtful preparation and the right resources. This course offers a structured approach to designing a relationship that reflects your unique needs and desires.
Why be in a relationship off the rack when you can create a designer relationship together? There is a better way!
I'm Ready!
"Ally just gets it. When I am in need of insight into a conflict regarding my partnerships, Ally leans in and really listens. Her responses are thoughtful and she takes my personality traits into account, which is a rare find in this space where boilerplate answers tend to be the norm. Not with Ally. Her dedication to my outcomes shines through in how she receives and gives words of encouragement, how she asks questions for clarity, and how she holds space for all of the emotions associated with the ups and downs of partnership. Her containers are safe and empathetic at their core. She is a wealth of knowledge, but more than that, she pours her heart into what she does with Passport 2 Pleasure and that makes all the difference."
Jessica, single woman
"Ally was a game-changer for my wife and I. Vibrantly demonstrating what it means to say an ‘enthusiastic yes’ to life’s possibilities and our own inner desires. She also demonstrated with equal gusto the power of ‘no’ as a means to keep space for what truly makes us feel nourished in the world. A perfect guide to brave new worlds, Ally’s one-of-a-kind mix of spiritual wisdom, sassy humor, and empathetic connection gave my wife and I much of the inspiration, and more importantly, the tools, to navigate this complicated but rewarding lifestyle.
Chris D., married man
"Ally is an incredible guide. When my husband and I began exploring non-monogamy, Ally was instrumental in helping us navigate all the new terrain and uncertainty that comes along with it. Whether it’s identifying boundaries or finding new uncharted curiosities, Ally is able to hold the space for whatever emerges with so much care and heart. Her passion for working with the deeper levels of human experience is clear. I can’t recommend her highly enough."
Lily M., married woman
Don't Fuck Around When It Comes To Fucking Around
Learn the tools and skills you need to build the relationships you want and deserve.
I'm Ready!INTRODUCING...
ENM 101:
OPEN UP WITHOUT BLOWING UP
Traditional relationships don't fit everyone. With rising divorce rates and significant instances of infidelity, it's natural to explore alternatives. Instant solutions for people who want to explore potentially opening up their relationship, but don't want to explode it!
Exploring this doesn't mean you have to open up your relationship. This may just be a tool that you use to determine if consensual non-monogamy is right for you.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE NON-MONOGAMOUS TO BENEFIT FROM LEARNING ABOUT NON-MONOGAMY.
Even if you choose monogamy, you will only strengthen your relationship and deepen your bond by understanding everything you need to open up without blowing up.
Get the map for your relation-trip:
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The questions you MUST answer to get on the same page
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Learn EXACTLY which relationship dynamic is right for you
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The exact words to use to minimize misunderstandings and keep ease and play as a priority in your relationships
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Learn essential vocabulary and terminology
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- Flexible Learning: Access instant solutions at your own pace, with lifetime access to everything, which is regularly updated.
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Expert Guidance: Learn from a Certified Relationship Coach with personal and professional experience in non-monogamy.
"Sam A."
We didn't even have the words to talk about our problems, this course gave us the words AND we fixed our problems!
"Sandy B."
We're the nerds who need to have everything put down on paper and this course gave us the tools to literally write up our Rules of Engagement!
"Lily M."
Whether it’s identifying boundaries or finding new uncharted curiosities, this is a perfect guide to brave new worlds.
"Emily W."
I already feel a shift in my mindset and confidence, and my partner’s not mad at it either!
EXPLORE WITH INTEGRITY
Imagine yourself in a sustainable relationship with...
✓ more excitement and novelty through sexual exploration and a variety of emotional connections
✓ personal growth and self-discovery through exploring respectful freedom and mutual autonomy
✓ honest and transparent communication leading to compersion and deeper intimacy with your partner
This course will provide you with the tools and knowledge you need to make this dream a reality. You can be deeply in love and fully committed while exploring freely and safely!
Designed to elevate your connection and communication, this online course is your opportunity to dive into a world where love is limitless and every experience is an opportunity to strengthen the bond you share.
B and A were freshly minted first time grandparents.
When they started working with me, they were also working on their divorce papers. After 12 weeks of working together, they said they feel like they’re back on their honeymoon, giggles and googly eyes and all! They chose a monogamous relationship dynamic but were feeling stuck and pitted against each other. There had been a pattern of broken trust and connections with others outside of their relationship agreement. We worked together to create their shared language by breaking down the compound meanings that were preventing them from communicating with each other. This enabled them to start understanding each other again and they realized they’d been saying a lot of the same things the whole time! Working with me enabled them to create their relationship like a secret clubhouse where they could meet each other in curiosity. They stopped living like strangers in false opposition and reclaimed each other as partners in life and love through creating clear agreements. Their relationship became a safe space where they could talk about anything no matter how uncomfortable. They can now share thoughts and fantasies with each other that they used to think were embarrassing or wrong or shameful, because now they understand that talking about them isn’t the same thing as acting on them. Shining the light of their love on the darkest parts of each other took the shame away. Now instead of throwing out the beautiful life they had built together, they threw out their divorce papers instead.
S and A came to me as 1st time parents and long time friends and lovers.
They were stuck in an all too familiar rut. A had felt like so much of her sense of self and sensuality had disappeared into motherhood and she was at a precipice where there was no turning back. She had to pursue and rediscover those parts of herself or she might lose herself for good. S was supportive but wasn’t able to be physically present for long periods of time due to work. So they agreed that A could sexually explore with other men while he was gone. This became a renaissance of reclamation and one he was overjoyed to see her experience. But soon feelings of imbalance crept in as he found getting dates to be harder than her. Navigating those challenging feelings of insecurity and self doubt became integral for S. Releasing the codependency falsely tying her to feeling responsible for his experience became integral for A. What they initially thought was an issue in their relationship was actually a beautiful opportunity for self development within themselves. Their individual journeys magnetized them together beyond anything they had ever experienced before. Working separately through the 4 types of romantic jealousy enabled both of them to better understand what they were each experiencing, where it was their own work and where they could come together for mutual growth. They have continued opening their relationship to other connections, which have continued to enrich their partnership to this day, opening up new horizons of curiosity, exploration, and desire for each other and what’s still yet to come.
Your Guide
ALLY ISEMAN.
The Non-Monogamy Nerd
As an ICF Certified Relationship Coach, consent and communication specialist, and NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional, I help curious couples and individuals learn the tools and skills they need to build the relationships they want and deserve.
In 2016, I tried to open up my last monogamous relationship... and it blew up in our faces. I've spent the years since learning everything the hard way so you don't have to!
These years of trial and error—reading every book, study, and article, attending every workshop, class, and event I could find—all led to the development of this course and my 4-phase relationship design framework, The Limitless Love Formula, through which I guide my private coaching clients.
Whether you want to open up your relationship to include other people, or you just want to open up more authentically to each other, I can help you open up without blowing up!
WHO IS THIS FOR?
This course is for individuals and couples who want to explore consensual non-monogamy and strengthen their connection through intentional relationship design.
✓ get on the same page
✓ discover ease
✓ enjoy deeper intimacy
✓ you will immediately have more trust
✓ experience richer connections
✓ explore curiosities without judgement
Your relationship deserves more than a one-size-fits-all approach. Start building the relationship you truly desire and deserve TODAY.
NOTE: This is educational and does not replace therapy or counseling. Consider consulting with a professional for more personalized guidance or coaching.
I'm Ready!
GET STARTED TODAY!
Give yourself the gift of defying dismal stats to create your most fulfilling, sustainable relationship with the highest probability of success.
ENM 101: Open Up Without Blowing Up
A comprehensive yet compact online course exploring the landscape of consensual non-monogamy while providing a key takeaway tool that is imperative for all relationship longevity: The Relationship Agreement.
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